Expectations v/s Hopes

When I was very young I heard and since then remembered two sayings from two of my different teachers. The sayings go as..."Expectations are the root cause of misery" and "Never loose hopes, coz hopes are the only ropes that'll support you". I thought a lot over these two and weighed them considering numerous instances from my own life as well as others life in general.

What I noticed was that sometimes I was hurt because I expected too much from others, that indirectly means there is a limit in every friendship that I should not cross. If it were in my hands, I would brush aside this limit...but unfortunately it needs two to tango!

Moreover, friendship needs time to grow...even I can't be a best of a friend to everyone who comes my way, although it varies that some people may turn out to be very good friends in a very short span of time while others just remain strangers even in years' relationship!! My initial friendship with anyone always turned out to be good... but then over time when I knew the person truly and better, I found most of them to be mere role players. In between these two phases I remained the same self... and that didn't prevent me from being demanding. The cases where friendship is true are very pleasing and euphoric, I mean nothing can make atleast me feel better than possessing a true friend. On the other hand, cases where friendship turns out to be something different, are very hard and uneasy to handle...they just break me.

I once had a dream to perfect (and include in a stereotype) the search and selection techniques into a science so that one can predict almost infallibly on the very first meeting with any person, whether or not the person is worth making a friend. The stereotype was a joke but the search and selection thingie is something everyone should be aware of. I try to strain my brains as much as I can... but still sometimes I make wrong decisions...after all I am a human being ( I hope u agree with this).

I dunno what I have written and how you would interpret it, but to recapitulate, I would say that I still live with hopes in my heart rather than living with the fear of getting hurt on expecting and not getting the expected.

Be generous and positive, its in my blood (O +ve)

Profiles

Now this is not meant in general to any specific person..But it should be read by all those who practice this or hate this.
I think that ppl shud actually put atleast their real names on orkut profiles and not some thing like what is really going on in your real lives..or even those stupid ones like "album updated ___name"(this 1 I really hate).It really gets bogging when one has to look at every profile in ones friends' list to see the person since the change of name has taken place.
a) I want that atleast the full name or even the first name should be minimum there in one's profile name.
b) Stop telling about the profile/album updates to every1 in the world..go get a life loser..no one wants to check ur profile..
c) Waise to I really am a fan of PDA's(public display of affections)..But I really mean it on the streets and in the subway and in the theatres..and not really on orkut..Specially when ppl put up their names as "I miss ya /I luv ya..blah blah blah.."

Now one thing which has really caught up between me and sm like minded friends (Actually I acquired this frm others and now sm others have taken a cue frm me)..is to keep your scrap book clean(reduce them in number drastically) or infact clear of all the scraps. It just puts ur private life into public display..Waise it doesnt really matter to me if it gets public and there is nothing which isnt public abt me..bt I still wud like to say that I want my privacy at some places.